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Understanding a Woman's Breasts Through Loving Your Wife

Breast Cancer, Wellness, Health, Pain, Oncologist, Gynecologist, Lumps, Mammogram, Feelings, FX777, Fx777222999

It was in a cold and clinical hospital examining room that I began to understand that a woman’s breasts are more than objects for my pleasure. And, I am a better man for it.

I’ve always considered myself a “breast man,” bustiers, bikinis, the Wonderbra; all windows for my insatiable voyeuristic appetite. And I am totally enamored of my wife’s beautiful body – in addition to all her other wonderful qualities, of course.

Imagine, then, the fear I felt one Sunday morning when, in an unconvincingly light tone, my wife told me she’d felt a lump in her breast. The word cancer was far from my mind as we sat in the gynecologist’s office awaiting her mammogram. Even during the brief strobe-like flashes when my brain registered the worst possibilities, my thoughts were more of treatment than a disease: Lumpectomy, radiation, and chemotherapy.

Over the weekend, while awaiting the results, my wife and I did not mention cancer. I felt I was doing her a favor by not talking about something over which we had no control.

The results of the mammogram were negative – but I quickly learned this was no guarantee that the problem would quietly go away. My wife had felt a lump. Her doctor had felt it. Her advice was to return in three months for a follow-up exam. It took only three weeks for my wife to become convinced that something was wrong. Our next appointment was with a specialist, and only when I heard the word biopsy did I admit to myself that these people were seriously talking about the breast cancer.

In the hospital waiting room, my wife asked if I would come in with her to see the doctor. “You mean while he examines you?” I asked, startled. She stared at me. I’d always considered the examining room a place of utmost privacy. I hadn’t imagined she’d want me in there, but that look told me I’d clearly erred in my judgment.

The male doctor was disarmingly handsome and rather young. He struck me as being more like an advertising executive than a highly regarded oncologist. He barely noticed me as he and my wife discussed her medical history in great detail. They spoke easily of ovulation and breast density and other mysterious topics that usually remain locked away from a man. In some odd way, I felt like I was watching my wife getting picked up at a bar by an attractive intelligent stranger.

My wife lay back on the examining table, and the doctor deftly untied the strings of her gown. He pulled the flimsy cotton back, exposing her fully I averted my eyes, as if trying not to view a car wreck. I’d adored my wife’s breasts. But I couldn’t make her problem go away. My touch was nothing more than sexual or affectionate. This stranger’s hands could heal. Maybe it was jealousy.

The doctor examined each breast with firm resolve. At that moment, I was struck with shame and humiliation: I didn’t even know which breast had the lump. How could I have not even thought to ask? After a cursory exploration, the doctor focused on her left breast and began a painstaking exam every inch, as if he were making a map. At one point, he turned his head toward the ceiling as his fingers manipulated her nipple. I could see that his eyes were tightly shut. He looked like he might have been praying.

Ever since that first, heart-stopping adolescent moment when my wife allowed me to feel beneath her shirt, I have been both soothed and excited at the bosom of countless women. Yet it was only in a cold and clinical hospital examining room that I began to understand how a woman might view her breasts. Harbinger of adolescence, billboard of sexuality, provider of her baby’s milk. Two organs from which I have taken nothing but pleasure can symbolize an entire cycle of life for a woman.

In that small, cold examining room I received an education on something called a fibroadenoma. The doctor felt confident that my wife’s lump was a coiled tissue, a cyst that can be cured upon.

Six months later, I accompanied my wife to the hospital and the doctor examined her breasts again. I felt no jealousy while he performed the breast examination, which produced the same comforting diagnosis. We are safe for now.

It might do every man good to accompany his partner on a visit to her gynecologist. The experience did nothing to desexualize my feelings for my wife. I am still profoundly attracted to her breasts, but I am also keenly aware of the vulnerable, precious person behind the sexy fa├žade.

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How to Remove Eye Make-up

How to, Eye Make-up, Lotion, Make-up, Conditioner, Facial Cream Remover, Beauty, Women, FX777, Fx777222999

Removing Eye Make-up:

All eye make-up must be thoroughly removed. If left-over traces are not to dry out and damage the delicate tissue that surrounds the eyes. Mascara in particular is very easy to miss; after your regular eye make-up cleansing procedure, try removing final traces of mascara with a cotton-tipped stick dipped in cleanser.

Cleansing Procedure:

Begin by applying eye make-up remover directly to a cotton wool pad. With your eye closed, draw the pad over the upper lid, starting from the inside corner of the eye. Again, with your eye closed, use the other side of the pad for the lower lid. Continue with a clean pad until no more make-up can be removed. Then repeat this procedure for the other eye, always using a different pad.

Eyebrows:

The eyebrows are important part of your overall face shape and expression, and should not be neglected when your are thinking of eye make-up. If your eyebrows are in good shape they will balance the features and provide a frame for your eyes. If the eyebrows are very thin and hard they will look unnatural: if they are very thick and shaggy they will tend to look unfeminine and to overshadow your eyes.

Shaping:

The natural shaped of your eyebrows and the place on the brow where they grow will probably be a natural balance to your face shape. This means that it is usually best not to alter their shape too drastically. A good way of establishing where your eyebrows should begin and end the how high they should arch is to use the simple measuring technique which follows. If you have a small brow and fine features, your eyebrows should be delicate too. If your features are heavy, then your eyebrows may need strengthening and defining more clearly if they are to play their full part.

Measuring the Eyebrows:

1) Sit in the front of a mirror and take a pencil in one hand.

2) Hold the pencil so that it makes a line from the side of your nostril to the inner corner of your eye and upward: where the pencil touches the eyebrow is where your eyebrow should start.

3) Hold the pencil at an angle from the side of the nostril, past the outer corner of your corner of your eye and outward: this is where your eyebrow should end.

4) If you look straight ahead, the highest point of your eyebrow should be directly above the iris of your eyes.

Plucking:

Removing straggling hairs from around the edges of your eyebrows and also removing any very brushy will improve the outline of your eyebrows. But take care not to remove too many hairs of your eyebrows may end up looking rather bald and unnatural. It is a good idea to pluck your eyebrows after taking a hot bath, as the skin is softer then and the hair follicles are more open. You will probably find that slant-ended tweezers are better for plucking the eyebrows than either straight-or-rounded ones. After plucking your eyebrows, give them another brushing with your eyebrow brush, and then wipe them with a mild toner to close the follicles that have had their hairs removed.

Technique:

1) First brush your eyebrows in to shape with a special eyebrow brush or a clean old toothbrush.

2) Then use tweezers to pluck out the stray hairs. Begin by removing stragglers from between your eyebrows and then tidy up the general outline.

Defining:

Most people prefer to use a fine eyebrow pencil for defining their eyebrow. Always choose a color to tone with your own eyebrows and hair color: your face will look strange if you choose a color that is at odds with your natural coloring. If you are using an eyebrow pencil make sure that it is very sharp so that you can draw the lines exactly where you want them. Always start at the inner corner of the eyebrow and use short, light upward strokes as you work toward the middle.

From the center of the eyebrow to the outer edge, use the same kind of feathery strokes as before as before but this time, tip them downward.

Tip:

Always pluck brows in direction of growth so as not to damage the hair follicle.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: A freelance writer who meticulously structured and maintained blogs just for you:A LIFE SO FAR AWAYand my other blog:OFW: THIS IS MY LIFE AND STORY Thank you for your valuable time. Follow my business & writings and you'll find what life's meant to be.